I am excited to announce my next guest blog post from one of my Aussie friends, Tim Neal. He has worked with the one and only Tony Robbins, and is so incredibly inspiring in his coaching. I met him on Facebook through a mutual friend, and I am so glad I did. His no-nonsense approach is just what I need to hear to stay motivated and on track……but most importantly, he helps me to continually look in the mirror and be honest with myself. We deserve no less…..
By: Tim Neal, Mindset & Motivation Coach
Do you feel that life is against you? That it’s a constant battle? That nobody can be trusted? That you’re alone? That life is just hard???
It can feel that way. I’ve felt that way many times.
Here’s what I’ve learned and ask you to consider if you’re wanting to take back your power and take giant steps forward in your life.
Often we can start playing the victim. This is a pattern we can easily get sucked into, it’s about blame.
Remember, when you point the finger there are 3 fingers pointing back at you.
This is not to say it’s all your fault either, a common misconception, yet just an opportunity to become more proactive and more respons-able. When you choose to blame any person, circumstance, situation or event – you lose.
❌You lose your worth.
❌You lose your power.
❌You lose your truth.
❌You lose your strength.
❌You lose any chance of progress.
❌You lose your ability to grow.
❌You lose your connection.
❌You lose your love.
❌You lose your happiness.
When you put your ‘blinders’ on and miss the opportunity to learn the lesson, you keep repeating the same disempowering pattern.
I get it. It’s scary to step out of the victim role. Your shit comes up! All
the stuff you’ve been pushing down and suppressing, consciously and unconsciously will rear its ugly head. It’s not comfortable, in fact, it’s very uncomfortable! Your ego will come out and fight for your victim stance. It will feel as though your survival is threatened, it will feel like life or death. Your deepest fears are often realized.
It takes courage to find another more empowering way.
The truth is that playing the victim is based around ‘stories’. The stories we’ve made up over the years, beliefs that we’ve believed and attached significant meaning to. And it’s those stories that keep us feeling stuck, trapped and powerless.
What’s the answer? How do you break through and take back your power?
You take RESPONSIBILITY.
✔️ Responsibility for your worth.
✔️ Responsibility for your power.
✔️ Responsibility for your truth.
✔️ Responsibility for your strength.
✔️ Responsibility for your progress.
✔️ Responsibility for your growth.
✔️ Responsibility for your connection.
✔️ Responsibility for your love.
✔️ Responsibility for your happiness.
Responsibility for your dynamic with the other person, responsibility for the circumstance, the situation or the event.
Responsibility for the learning and lesson that the universe is wanting to teach you.
It’s not always easy, yet necessary to move ahead.
I’d suggest you ask yourself these 3 power questions.
- What do I GET by playing the victim?
Eg. I get comfort, I feel a connection, I experience significance
- WHY will I choose to take more responsibility from now on?
Eg. It hurts too much when I feel helpless, I’m sick of being angry, I am more committed to my growth, my family and friends deserve me to be at my best more often.
And, in the moments where you feel like a victim or start to blame, ask yourself…
- What is MY responsibility here?
Eg. I didn’t honor my word, I’m not speaking up, I’m talking with frustration, I’m expecting X, I haven’t communicated any agreements or made any requests.
Responsibility is where you will learn.
Responsibility is where you will grow.
Responsibility is the only real way forward.
Responsibility is where you will win – every time.
Make a commitment to yourself to stop playing the victim, instead whatever happens take responsibility. It will change your life!
Stay Strong & Be Great!
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